by Sónia Borges | Jul 10, 2026 | Making sense of relationships
There is a version of you that existed before you learned what was acceptable. Before you understood which parts of you were welcomed and which were better kept quiet. Before you discovered that certain feelings made the people around you uncomfortable, that certain...
by Sónia Borges | Jul 10, 2026 | Making sense of relationships
It rarely arrives as a dramatic rupture. There is no single argument, no decisive moment of fracture. Instead, it comes gradually, almost imperceptibly, like a tide retreating so slowly you barely notice the shore has changed. You are still sharing meals and calendars...
by Sónia Borges | Jul 10, 2026 | Making sense of relationships
There is a conversation most of us have been having our entire lives without ever quite saying what we mean. We talk, and yet something essential remains unspoken. We argue about dishes and schedules and tone of voice, when what we are really arguing about is whether...
by Sónia Borges | Jul 10, 2026 | Making sense of relationships
Long before you understood what a relationship was, you were already inside one. You arrived in the world with a single, urgent biological imperative: to find someone who would respond to you. Not: teach you, shape you or prepare you for life. Simply respond. To be...
by Sónia Borges | Jul 10, 2026 | Making sense of relationships
Not long ago I found myself on YouTube, searching for something specific. I typed in “the most intimate love song” and waited to see what the algorithm understood intimacy to mean. The results came quickly and generously: Rihanna, Chris Brown, John Legend....
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